How are you guys? I know it has been a while since my last blog post, but believe me I am working on a plan for consistency!
Anywho let’s get straight to what’s been up with me! To start I will let you know that just a few months ago, early April, I got down really sick. In the beginning I was unaware, always tired and sleepy. In fact, I lost so much energy that my weekly visits to the gym became nonexistent. As soon as I noticed that I wasn’t making it to the gym I began to pray, “Lord please deliver me from the spirit of laziness…” Not long after, I began to realize that I would have a shortness of breath walking up and down the stairs at home and to and from my classes. My heart would be racing and I seemed to always be out of breath. I just could not believe that I had gotten so lazy and out of shape, or at least that’s what I kept telling myself. So once again, not being comfortable in my laziness I continued to pray, “Lord deliver me from the spirit of laziness…” Not long after, I had other symptoms/signs going on to my body that lead me to schedule an appointment with the doctor. Still not correlating everything together, I became really fatigue, and stressed because my physical and mental performance was having a major decline.
Now before going any further, I’m going to be real with you all, I am not comfortable sharing publicly the thorough details of my diagnosis and health condition, which is why it has taken me soo long to write this blog. But I do want to share my story at how this experience has taken me to a higher level of trust and faith in God.
Which leads me to the a few life lessons I’ve learned.
When the devil gives you a bad report and you are believing God for healing, a miracle, a turn-around, whatever-, be very careful who you share your troubles with. Some people do not care to hear your troubles! As messed up as it is, some people just like to know everyone’s business, so that they have something to talk about, or some “tea” to share.
On the other hand, I am a firm believer in the saying “There is power in the tongue”. [Proverbs 18:21 NKJV Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.] If I tell you that I am going through a health crisis, or even if I am talking to you about how I may be struggling with an addiction to drugs, please UNDERSTAND, that if someone is bold enough to be vulnerable with you about a struggle, it is your duty to uplift, be positive, and most of all pray! I know that may seem like high expectations to some, but that is why I also believe in the saying “Be careful of the company you keep.” [Proverbs 13:20 NKJV He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companions of fools will be destroyed] Therefore if I call unto someone as my friend, I expect you encourage and SPEAK LIFE during hard times!
I have watched on many occasions where someone vents out about their personal issues, whether it may be about a sickness, family issue, or even a struggle to pass a test, and instead of people SPEAKING LIFE in regards to the situation, they speak “death” through the ways of gossip. (How many times have people made claims that Bobbi Kristina died while baby girl was still holding on…)
For instance lets say that you call your friend Mary, to share with her that you just found out your mutual friend, Jackie, just found out that her house is going into foreclosure (the process of taking a mortgaged property as a result of the mortgagor’s failure to keep up mortgage payments). Or for us college students, being evicted from your apartment.
You have people that will respond in three ways:
- Negatively: “Oh wow, I don’t understand how someone can have a full time job and not be able to keep up with their mortgage/bills.” “That’s crazy because she has the latest Michael Kors purse, hair stay laid, nails always done, and eyebrows always on fleek. She’s never going to be able to keep up with her payments.” “Wow so basically she’s going to be homeless, if she hasn’t been able to get it together after all this time…”
- Positively: “Aww man I am sorry to hear that, I pray that God opens up a door for financial increase in her life.” “I’ll say a prayer for her.” “That is unfortunate, but I am sure that everything will work out in her favor.”
- Silently: the simple “Oh…” or “Oh okay” “…”
Again, I will restate, I am a firm believer in the saying “There is power in the tongue”. When one decides to speak negatively, you are now placing negative seeds into the atmosphere and claiming failure to someone’s situation. Likewise, who’s to say that everyone has to look like what they are going through? Who’s to say that Jackie doesn’t do her own hair, or gets her hair done by a sister for free? Life happens to us all but who are we to judge from the outside, and claiming the negative to one’s life or situation only proves your lack of faith and/or accountability. When you respond positively, you are sowing a good seed of faith into the atmosphere, which is what we need for each other. When we choose to be silent, hey I do not see anything wrong with that, sometimes it is best to mind your own business, besides its not in everyone’s personality to reach out to help solve or be involved with other people’s troubles, and there is nothing wrong with that! To each their own…
[Matthew 15:18 NKJV But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man]
But back to my situation, in the early stages of my diagnosis, I was very distraught. As a matter of fact, I was given my medical test results on my birthday, and I just could not believe that life was happening to me! Nope not now, not my birthday, not a few days before finals. Uh huh nope, I was in complete denial, and in need of encouragement. I reached out to a few people just to vent. I had friends who immediately stopped to pray with me, Praise God! And then there were people who tested my relationship with them, because I had people return to me with a different version of my diagnosis claiming the negative report that I just did not need to be in the atmosphere.
Nonetheless, I am grateful to say that I have since then made progress with my health, and I’ve even made my way back into the gym!God is more than good, he is great, he is marvelous, he is magnificent, he is worthy to be praised! And I now know whom I can go to in my times of need for uplifting, and those who surely do not care but to share some “tea”.
So my message/challenge to you all:
Next time you get a bad report or hear a bad report, SPEAK LIFE!
I know the doctor may have said XYZ,
I know the bank may have said XYZ,
I know your academic adviser may have said, XYZ,
I know your supervisor may have said XYZ,
But with faith in God, the unspeakable miracle, the overflow of favor, can turn your situation around. You just have to SPEAK LIFE & BELIEVE!
[Matthew 21:22 NKJV And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”]
Also if you are the one down and in need of “venting’ remember to recognize your true supporters, your real friends, and those who want to see you excel in life. If you are sharing a bad report with someone and you hear a negative response, take note, and know this is not the person to share my struggles with. Ask God to give you the spirit of discernment when sharing your struggles with others, and know that it is also okay to take the route to keep things to yourself, and believe in God humbly to turn your situation around.
[Mark 11: 22-24 NKJV 22 So Jesus answered and said to them, “Have faith in God. 23 For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to the mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. 24 Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you will receive them, and you will have them.]
[Ephesians 4:29 NIV Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.]
Again, SPEAK LIFE & BELIEVE!
“Turning negatives into positives one blog post at a time…”-Passionate Woman