4 things I didn’t let rejection teach me

False Humility is REALLLL! Preach!!


rejection comes in many shapes, sizes and arenas. it pops up in friendships, familial situations, professional settings and as many people know, romantic relationships. I’ve encountered quite a bit of the aforementioned (like a sampler of L’s if you wish) but could never accept it for what it was.  here’s a list of what I’m finally willing to take from rejection & admit to myself:

1. FALSE HUMILITY IS A THING…and it’s terrible. it pretends to be at peace. it pretends to be rational and apologetic. it acts like it’s okay with rejection but eventually shows itself in statements like:

“I know I’m not perfect but…” | “I know I said/did ____ but you said/did…” | “I’m sorry if…” | “I don’t expect anything from you but” | the list goes on.

I honestly, truly believed I was so humble. like, Mother Teresa…

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Unapologetically Fat

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Why does my fat make people uncomfortable?  Why does my waistline concern others?  Why don’t you know I’m unapologetically fat.  As I type this playing in my head is India Arie song “Video.”

 When I look in the mirror and the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it’s suppose to be
And I know my creator didn’t make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my Lips, my eyes, I’m loving what I see

I’ve always been a champion for the voiceless.  I’ve never had an issue using My Miss Celie voice.  I’m a body positive blogger.  Be happy with you.  It’s amazing to me when I hear or see people commenting on what I or plus size women wear.  Really at times I don’t know where to start.  This post was suppose to be about the events I attended this past…

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Progression OVER Perfection

Progression OVER Perfection


Hey Yall, its been a minute, but I am eager to share with you all my progression since the New Year. If you read my most recent blog Hello 2016, you’ll remember I made long list of New Year’s Resolutions (Goals), here’s an update:


I won’t go through every bullet point, but I’d like to highlight a few highs and lows. Normally I’d start off with my lows but today I’ll start with the HIGHS.

Craft More.

Since the New Year, I’ve made the initiative to cut back on my spending, and by doing so I’ve been practicing to Craft More in the kitchen. I am proud to say that I’ve been eating out less, practicing more on the few dishes I know, as well as trying new things.

Keep My Eyebrows On Fleek.

I know to some this may sound foolish, but every woman knows how simply cleaning up your eyebrows can change your entire look. You could be having a bad hair day but if your eyebrows look neat, you can still wear your glow.

Travel More.

Fortunately, I had the amazing opportunity to travel to San Juan, Puerto Rico this past March. This trip was my graduation gift to myself. I saved up money from my graduation gifts, put money aside from my paychecks, and funded my way to a great time. I was able to enjoy four days of vacation, adventure, dancing, and good laughs with four beautiful young women.

Join a Fitness Group/Work Out More.

This is my greatest accomplishment of all, working towards my personal fitness. I started off dedicated but lost. I would go to the gym ready, but after 20 minutes ask myself “Okay what next”? Weekly I am learning more and more from what areas of my body need the most working, to clean eating, to which equipment to use in the gym, etc. A huge contribution to my fitness journey would be obtaining membership at the YouFit Gym, when you pay for membership out of pocket it motivates you to get your money’s worth. In addition to Gym membership, attending my dear friend/mentor Killer Body Fitness Dance Classes. Anyone who knows me knows I LOVE to dance, so when I’m there I’m having so much fun dancing I tend to forget I’m working out…at least till I start feeling sore.

Now over to these LOWS..Meep.

Read More.

Reading is fundamental. Knowledge is power. Knowing these things, why can’t I pick up a book and read? Too easily distracted, and haven’t taken the simple step of actually picking up a book. On a brighter side I have found myself reading a lot more blogs and short articles online during my free time at work. Remember: Progress Over Perfection.

Work On My Mouth.

Man oh man this has been tough, simply because I don’t care. In order to correct a problem you must identify it as a problem. This is why it is very important to never get complacent in sin, settling for less, and/or not putting forth your best efforts. In effort to work on my mouth, this week I’ve started back creating tallies on my wrist anytime I catch myself cursing or using derogatory terms. At the end of each day I have to do push-ups for each tally. Remember: Progress Over Perfection.


Re-Dedicate My Life to Christ.

Although the dedication is there mentally-spiritually, I have to work on taking more action and having more faith. In this area of my life I may be over exaggerating it as a low, but I have a higher standard for myself when it comes to my spirituality. There are some things tangible and intangible that I must simply let go. But again on the brighter side I have been practicing prayer and fasting to help get myself together in the long run. Remember: Progress over Perfection

Last but definitely not least,

Blog More.

I have a problem. When it comes to writing I am a perfectionist. I have been working on one blog for over 3 month. [I actually began this blog March 17th…] Part of the problem is I’ve been without a laptop for over a year. I know, that’s crazy.  So unless I push myself to go to the library or bug a friend to use their laptop nothing gets done. But once I get past moving into my new place I’ll make the investment of purchasing my own laptop. On the bright-side I have written a blog on Power Circle  this past March entitled “My Personal Fitness Journey”, and I’m currently working on a few more, so stay tuned, and walk this journey of PROGRESS with me!  


Again, Remember: Progress Over Perfection.

Many things won’t happen overnight, but if you continuously set goals, realistic goals, and remain dedicated you will progress overtime. Below I’d like to share with you 4 ways to purse PROGRESS in reaching your personal goals:


If you are not progressing towards your goals, maybe it’s because you need change. Change can be anything from your diet, environment, circle of friends, spending habits, the amount of time you spend on social media/watching television or even the brand of seasoning you use for those of you working on your cooking skills. “One reason people resist Change is because they focus on what they have to give up instead of what they have to gain.”- Rick Goodwin


Believe You Can.

One thing I’ve quickly recognized is that you must have a positive mindset when reaching towards progress. If you wake up with a defeated mindset, or worrying so much that it cannot be done, then it won’t get done. For a while I worried so much about reaching my goals that I found myself doubting my abilities to succeed. I had to pray for God to help me to have a more positive mindset and to believe in myself just as much as those around me. “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George B. Shaw

Find an Accountability Partner.

This is actually one of my greatest accomplishments thus far this year; creating accountability partners. Your accountability partner could be a friend, co-worker, classmate, or a family member. Your accountability partners job is simply to hold you accountable to your goals and remind you to get things done. Finding someone with the same goals as you or that have already surpass reaching your current goal would allow the partnership to be more beneficial. “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” – Proverbs 27:17

Reward Yourself.

Once you’ve successfully achieved your goal(s) reward yourself, you deserve it! Often times we overcome one challenge to the next but never allow ourselves the time to just breathe and appreciate the hard work accomplished at hand. Other times we meet our goals and wait for others to honor us for it, noooo, don’t do that. Sometimes I reward myself by getting my nails done, others I reward myself by simply laying down. Do whatever works for you! “The biggest reward for a thing well done is simply to have done it.”- Unknown

With that being said get up and get something done!!

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Hello 2016

Heyyy Yall,

I know it has been a while but it’s a new season, a time for change, persistence, consistency, and INCREASE. So without further ado…


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I must say that I am beyond grateful and blessed to make it into 2016. Words cannot express my gratitude for this New Year. I now declare and decree to leave every negative aspect of the past in 2015. Every disappointment, every rejection, every battle. It’s no longer relevant. What I will do is embrace the negatives that have become POSITIVES, and I would like to encourage you to do just the same.

It would be a bit cliché to say “2016 this is my year”, but why let the world’s bitterness stop me from speaking life and positivity into the atmosphere. So yes I am declaring “2016 IS MY YEAR”, and I challenge you to claim it as well.


The way you start this year is the way you will finish it, so as I love to say SPEAK LIFE! And with that being said, lets begin the year with a clean plate, a fresh start!

As the great Benjamin Franklin has quoted

“If you fail to plan then you are planning to fail”!

Soooo here’s my 2016 New Year’s Resolution List:

  • Be Great
  • Re-Dedicate my life to Christ
  • Work on my mouth
  • Find a new job
  • Open an online savings account with only 4 withdrawals a year.
  • Travel Travel Travel
  • Craft more
  • Read more
  • Join a fitness group/workout more
  • Keep my eyebrows on fleek
  • Date Myself
  • Go on more dates, and stop being flaw, lol
  • Blog More
  • Begin studying for Real Estate Licenses
  • Take GRE Test
  • Travel some more
  • Begin planning for starting my personal non-for-profit
  • Fight against all odds, and ACHIEVE all goals!!!

Extra emphasis on my final resolution: Fight against all odds, and ACHIEVE all goals! I encourage you early on as you begin this New Year to set goals and keep a positive attitude throughout the year. Understand early on that sometimes God will allow us to be in uncomfortable situations to grow us and push us to lean on him. Know that the battles are never yours but a chance for God to use you as a canvas to share your beauty (testimony) with someone else who may be in your spot and need encouragement to move on.  Know that it’s okay to lean on your mother, father, brother, sister, whomever. You are never alone, and prayer most definitely changes things. Last but definitely  not least, in order to see changes or different results in this new year, we must all make changes, whether it may be having more self-discipline, cutting bad habits, releasing bad company, drinking more water, focusing more on ourselves, staying up a little later to finish the job, or even staying in more and turning up less. Whatever it is you need to do to better yourself and have a better year I challenge you to do it.


If you need an accountability partner, I am here for you!

More importantly remember Matthew 6:33-34

33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble

I have no doubt that if you follow this path and mindset that 2016 will be a great one for you!

Again, Happy New Years to All!


And before I close this blog, I’d just like to say thank you to everyone who’s made 2015 a great one!



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Let Your PURPOSE Drive You!

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How many times have you been told “You have purpose…”? Many I hope…How many times have you been asked “What is your purpose?” Well for me many to both.

If anyone were to ask me what my purpose is I would not hesitate one second to give an answer. I have discovered my purpose through self-assurance and faith. But truth is, there are times I get caught up with life struggles and lose sight of my purpose. There has been times where I have had dreams and visions that I have shared and not heard supportive feedback and even times where I have either made excuses or doubted myself or capabilities to reach my expectations. Then life tragedy happened and it changed me for the better!
Just a month ago, I got a call from my mom, it was a little after 10:30pm, she called to inform me that my sister had been in a bad car accident, and to just pray. From the sounds of my mom’s voice I knew it was bad. I was scared and I began to pray. I was so nervous I got up to spend the night with my friends because I just knew my anxiety would not let me sleep. I starred at my phone all night waiting for answers and trying to convince myself don’t pray and worry.

It turned out that my sister was in a three-car collision, hit by a drunk driver, ejected from the car, and fractured a few bones in both her foot and neck. BUT GOD…Again, BUT GOD kept her and I am so grateful. Check out the screen shot below to read just part of her testimony.




After reading that, I hope somebody has been reassured that they have purpose! It has been since then that I have found a new appreciation for waking up each morning and working towards my purpose.

“He has saved us and called us to a holy life—not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace” -2 Timothy 1:9

Outside of this testimony, my sister is going through so much more, where everything could have just ended right there with her body lying in the road. BUT GOD, allowed that pick-up truck, that praying Angel, and his grace to be present with her in the midst of it all. Why did God allow such an amazing thing? Because she still has purpose to live out! He still has greatness for her to achieve! He still has victories for her to triumph over the enemy. She now has this testimony to share to save and convict the lives of others that God is real and “He ain’t done with you yet-“!

“But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth” -Exodus 9:16


Now as I mentioned before if you asked me what my purpose is, I would not hesitate to tell you my purpose is to SERVE, to MOTIVATE, to ENCOURAGE, to BE A VOICE for the voiceless. With knowing my purpose I have set goals from personal to professional, and after nearly losing my sister, I have been motivated to wake up with drive and thanksgiving each and every day! I know that waking up with breath is proof that I still have purpose and I must work towards living it out. So if you know your purpose and have lost sight, whether it is lack of motivation, or you’ve experienced some type of setback…I encourage you today that your set back is only preparing you for a major comeback.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”-Romans 8:28


Today’s Challenge:

  • Set daily/weekly/monthly goals that align with your PURPOSE.
  • Find an accountability partner.
  • Pray for guidance.
  • Pray for spiritual healing and restoration.
  • Declare each day that you will live productively and full of PURPOSE.
  • Lastly, as I mentioned before, I found my purpose through personal self-assurance and faith. Get to know yourself, find out what makes your heart race for joy, discover your passions, and create a vision for a PURPOSE-FILLED lifestyle.

“I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted” -Job 42:2

“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out” -Proverbs 20:5


“Turning negatives into positives one blog post at a time…”-Passionate Woman


Don’t forget to join in on the monthly prayer call next Thursday Night October 1st @ 9pm!!!




In all that you do, PRAY! It is more powerful to pray about your problems than it is to talk about them.


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This past summer was a bit hectic for me, there was so much going on, and my new phrase became: LIFE IS HAPPENING! To start, I told myself that I HAD to move off campus! Like I could not take it anymore, sharing my bathroom, living with freshman, and uncultured-privileged children. So from May to July I was on a desperate hunt for a new home and a new roommate. Somehow every roommate had reason to back out whether it was due to finances, parents, and sometimes the vibe just was not right. I got worried a few times thinking, okay I refuse to be homeless once school starts, and I am not returning to campus. I prayed, searched, had a few disappointments, but eventually met someone who needed a sublease for their 4/4 apartment. It wasn’t a 2/2 like I wanted, I’d still be living with randoms, but obviously this is what God had for me.

During that same time of searching for a new home I decided to take a visit to check in with my advisors, to check that I was on track to graduate Summer 16. I went in just to be proactive only to find that due to my minor classes that I would be reaching the excess hours limit. Therefore, I was informed that I would be paying a surcharge fee for my remaining semesters (paying out of state tuition). Heavens No, so my tuition was going from about $3000 to $9500. Um that conversation did not go well with my mom. I had to pray, but I will admit I did a lot of worrying in between. I eventually had to make the decision to drop my minor, oh when I tell you it hurt, babbyyyyy that was my only reason for choosing UCF. I prayed to God with confusion and sometimes anger. Like why did you bring me to this school just to let me down. But regardless of how I felt I continued to pray daily…weekly because despite me being upset I knew that God’s plan for me is bigger than my current circumstances.


So I learned to accept the situation and embrace that I would be graduating a bit earlier than planned. But on the Brightside, all summer I kept praying for growth saying everyday “I am ready to be a WOMAN. I am ready to put childish ways aside.” I guess this was God’s way of positioning me for what I have been asking for.

So now summer is basically over, I’ve filed my intent to graduate, I’m in good spirits, optimistic that somehow I’ll get selected for the scholarships I’ve applied for and my finances will be taken care of as far as paying my tuition. I’m just ready for a fresh start and to gain my degree. My next step to being a graduate was signing up for Capstone. UCF College of Business has a mandatory exit course that you must take your last semester, and has it very own registration date. So just as the hundreds of eager seniors, I woke up bright and early at 9 a.m. to register for the class….ONLY to be DENIED and informed that I have a $315 fine on my account. MANNNN, I was fed up like what now??? I had just checked my account for fees and I was good.

I quickly made my way to the student accounts office. All I need right now is to have this hold removed temporarily so that I could sign up for my class and get the hell up out of here! Yep I’m mad, LOL! After being told no I was sent from one department to the next, and finally was told I was fined for my summer B course. Apparently my surcharge fees began in summer and not fall. I was then advised to do send in an email request for a surcharge review. I did so immediately, and two days later I received an email saying the charges were removed and that I would no longer be receiving surcharge fees for the Fall as well. Praise GOD!! This was the best news ever, because I did not know how I would afford paying my Fall tuition, pay for books, rent, and enjoy my last semester! BUT GOD, he heard my prayers and seen me working! So immediately after, I went to sign up for my class and once again I was denied access, can you believe it? This time it was a class time conflict error. Bruhhhh can a real girl just be great? LOL. I rushed to the College of Business office aggravated, it was hot, and I was just tired of all the obstacles in my view. I was then informed that there was an internal error that apparently many students were having.

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After a few days I checked in, and sister girl had the nerves to tell me they could not override the situation and I’d have to register next semester. Ohhh – I went off! Matter of fact I went off so bad I had to go sit down. Like why am I talking to a student and does this young lady think that I am going to push back my graduation [even after yall had me drop my minor] for one class. NAH! I sat down to get myself together and I just prayed. Like God I need you because this is too much, all I want to do is graduate, LET ME BE GREAT PLEASE!

Just before I walked out this woman from the back of the office called out for me, asked me which class I need, and the next morning I received an email confirmation that they completed an override and put me in my needed class! Whew! Prayer really changes things! It sucks I had to go off on the girl, but God seen me through, and I went to apologies, as well as asked God for forgiveness. Lol. But I tell you all this story to encourage you to PRAY MORE WORRY LESS! I could have gave up and simply complained about every situation, which is how I started, but I learned to PRAY my way through!




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So my challenge to you all today is:
• Practice praying, not only when hardship arises, but when things are going great! [THESSALONIANS 5:17 PRAY WITHOUT CEASING]
• Find an activity/hobby to do during times of trouble; whether it be taking a run, singing, 10 second count down, or even a little WHOOSAAH.
• Be optimistic!
• Lastly, Join me on the first of every month at 9pm for a monthly prayer call!


“Turning negatives into positives one blog post at a time…”-Passionate Woman


Hello Readers,

How are you guys? I know it has been a while since my last blog post, but believe me I am working on a plan for consistency!

Anywho let’s get straight to what’s been up with me! To start I will let you know that just a few months ago, early April, I got down really sick. In the beginning I was unaware, always tired and sleepy. In fact, I lost so much energy that my weekly visits to the gym became nonexistent. As soon as I noticed that I wasn’t making it to the gym I began to pray, “Lord please deliver me from the spirit of laziness…” Not long after, I began to realize that I would have a shortness of breath walking up and down the stairs at home and to and from my classes. My heart would be racing and I seemed to always be out of breath. I just could not believe that I had gotten so lazy and out of shape, or at least that’s what I kept telling myself. So once again, not being comfortable in my laziness I continued to pray, “Lord deliver me from the spirit of laziness…” Not long after, I had other symptoms/signs going on to my body that lead me to schedule an appointment with the doctor. Still not correlating everything together, I became really fatigue, and stressed because my physical and mental performance was having a major decline.

Now before going any further, I’m going to be real with you all, I am not comfortable sharing publicly the thorough details of my diagnosis and health condition, which is why it has taken me soo long to write this blog. But I do want to share my story at how this experience has taken me to a higher level of trust and faith in God.

Which leads me to the a few life lessons I’ve learned.

When the devil gives you a bad report and you are believing God for healing, a miracle, a turn-around, whatever-, be very careful who you share your troubles with. Some people do not care to hear your troubles! As messed up as it is, some people just like to know everyone’s business, so that they have something to talk about, or some “tea” to share.

On the other hand, I am a firm believer in the saying “There is power in the tongue”. [Proverbs 18:21 NKJV Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.] If I tell you that I am going through a health crisis, or even if I am talking to you about how I may be struggling with an addiction to drugs, please UNDERSTAND, that if someone is bold enough to be vulnerable with you about a struggle, it is your duty to uplift, be positive, and most of all pray! I know that may seem like high expectations to some, but that is why I also believe in the saying “Be careful of the company you keep.” [Proverbs 13:20 NKJV He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companions of fools will be destroyed] Therefore if I call unto someone as my friend, I expect you encourage and SPEAK LIFE during hard times!

I have watched on many occasions where someone vents out about their personal issues, whether it may be about a sickness, family issue, or even a struggle to pass a test, and instead of people SPEAKING LIFE in regards to the situation, they speak “death” through the ways of gossip. (How many times have people made claims that Bobbi Kristina died while baby girl was still holding on…)

For instance lets say that you call your friend Mary, to share with her that you just found out your mutual friend, Jackie, just found out that her house is going into foreclosure (the process of taking a mortgaged property as a result of the mortgagor’s failure to keep up mortgage payments). Or for us college students, being evicted from your apartment.

You have people that will respond in three ways:

  • Negatively: “Oh wow, I don’t understand how someone can have a full time job and not be able to keep up with their mortgage/bills.” “That’s crazy because she has the latest Michael Kors purse, hair stay laid, nails always done, and eyebrows always on fleek. She’s never going to be able to keep up with her payments.” “Wow so basically she’s going to be homeless, if she hasn’t been able to get it together after all this time…”
  • Positively: “Aww man I am sorry to hear that, I pray that God opens up a door for financial increase in her life.” “I’ll say a prayer for her.” “That is unfortunate, but I am sure that everything will work out in her favor.”
  • Silently: the simple “Oh…” or “Oh okay” “…”

Again, I will restate, I am a firm believer in the saying “There is power in the tongue”. When one decides to speak negatively, you are now placing negative seeds into the atmosphere and claiming failure to someone’s situation. Likewise, who’s to say that everyone has to look like what they are going through? Who’s to say that Jackie doesn’t do her own hair, or gets her hair done by a sister for free? Life happens to us all but who are we to judge from the outside, and claiming the negative to one’s life or situation only proves your lack of faith and/or accountability. When you respond positively, you are sowing a good seed of faith into the atmosphere, which is what we need for each other. When we choose to be silent, hey I do not see anything wrong with that, sometimes it is best to mind your own business, besides its not in everyone’s personality to reach out to help solve or be involved with other people’s troubles, and there is nothing wrong with that! To each their own…

[Matthew 15:18 NKJV But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man]

But back to my situation, in the early stages of my diagnosis, I was very distraught. As a matter of fact, I was given my medical test results on my birthday, and I just could not believe that life was happening to me! Nope not now, not my birthday, not a few days before finals. Uh huh nope, I was in complete denial, and in need of encouragement. I reached out to a few people just to vent. I had friends who immediately stopped to pray with me, Praise God! And then there were people who tested my relationship with them, because I had people return to me with a different version of my diagnosis claiming the negative report that I just did not need to be in the atmosphere.

Nonetheless, I am grateful to say that I have since then made progress with my health, and I’ve even made my way back into the gym!God is more than good, he is great, he is marvelous, he is magnificent, he is worthy to be praised! And I now know whom I can go to in my times of need for uplifting, and those who surely do not care but to share some “tea”.

So my message/challenge to you all:

Next time you get a bad report or hear a bad report, SPEAK LIFE!

I know the doctor may have said XYZ,

I know the bank may have said XYZ,

I know your academic adviser may have said, XYZ,

I know your supervisor may have said XYZ,

But with faith in God, the unspeakable miracle, the overflow of favor, can turn your situation around. You just have to SPEAK LIFE & BELIEVE!

[Matthew 21:22 NKJV And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”]

Also if you are the one down and in need of “venting’ remember to recognize your true supporters, your real friends, and those who want to see you excel in life. If you are sharing a bad report with someone and you hear a negative response, take note, and know this is not the person to share my struggles with. Ask God to give you the spirit of discernment when sharing your struggles with others, and know that it is also okay to take the route to keep things to yourself, and believe in God humbly to turn your situation around.

[Mark 11: 22-24 NKJV 22 So Jesus answered and said to them, “Have faith in God. 23 For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to the mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. 24 Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you will receive them, and you will have them.]

[Ephesians 4:29 NIV Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.]


“Turning negatives into positives one blog post at a time…”-Passionate Woman

Own Your IMAGE (Brand) or Re-Create It!

Just a few days ago, I was scrolling through one of the many groupme (Group Messenger App) chats that I’m a part of, and I passed a message stating “…I always attract hood chicks (sad face emoji)”. Now this statement was made after a video was shared about how a guy is always attracted to classy women but only attracts the “unattractive women” or “hoodrat like women”.

Thinking deeper to myself, I thought, what image or message could you be giving off to only attract hoodrats? Are you giving off the image of a King, of royalty, of class, as an “alpha male”, or are you just living life cause bad b*%#h@$ is the only thing that you like? I’m not judging, nor making assumptions of negative character, but simply questioning the mind and intentions of personal image.

Again, thinking to myself, what IMAGE may I be giving off? Probably a confusing one. Some days I sing praises, and others I’m vibin’ to my trap music. Some days I’m quiet and observant, and others I’m the life of the party. This past weekend, my mom came to town, and she noticed I had a box with a few bottles inside. Boyy, she flipped, LOL! It was quite entertaining; she was like “Not the Christian!” All I could do was laugh because in my head it was just a bottle that truthfully I hadn’t even had a sip of [yet],and then the second bottle I’ve had for three months and can’t say I’ve had a full cup…but Ma Dukes was not trying to hear that LOL.

As a matter of fact, NO ONE cares to hear your explanation for life decisions or perceived images, so you have to be responsible and own up to every action you make, regardless of how it may be perceived. I have grown to live by the statement DARE TO BE YOU! If you have to hide something, maybe you shouldn’t be doing it. If you have to shelter the REAL YOU, then maybe you need new friends or a new environment. I can’t say that I’ve ever tried to fit in, but I can admit to dimming my light to avoid the criticism of others [which honestly isn’t any better].

Your Soul Is Rooting For You

This past Sunday, the Pastor spoke on the topic “What are you doing to reflect God’s Image?” He spoke on being slow to anger, having forgiveness, walking in faith, etc. More importantly he made the comment that as a believer “…What you participate in and what you don’t participate in reflects the image of God”. As a proud believer of Jesus Christ it is often brought to my attention that I should uphold a certain image. In most cases this image is perceived to be “boring” or “without personality”. But that’s all up to the politics of religion vs. relationship or the never changings laws of the bible vs. evolution of the new generation. Personally I’m all about having a relationship with God, and striving for my personal purpose and goals.

My point is you have to recognize and be aware of the IMAGE (messages) that you may be sending off to others, whether it may be your co-workers, professors, friends, etc. Ask yourself…Does my image represent and/or align up with my life goals and purpose? If your answer is no, then put an expiration date on any bad habits or imagery that you may be portraying. You are the creator of you self-image (personal brand)!

My challenge for you today: Own Your IMAGE (Brand) or Re-Create It!

“Turning negatives into positives one blog post at a time…”-Passionate Woman

Spring Into Thanksgiving!

So it Spring Break and I finally have a little freedom from the text books. TURNNN UPPOh No Wait…I’m just going home…Turn Down for What you might ask? Well this is the fourth year in a row that I’ve simply just went home with no plans nor set of friends to make something of it. My best friend has moved to Tampa to attend USF (Boooo Go Knights!). She’s always been my partner in crime in moments like this but unfortunately we didn’t even share the same spring break.

So anyways as I stared out the window on my bus ride home, I mentally began to break down. Just about thirty to forty-five minutes away from my destination (Ft. Lauderdale – #954 baby) the weather looked all gloomy and looked like it was about to rain. Subsequently, I decided to turn my attention to my phone looking at Instagram and Snapchat seeing everyone prepare for their trips to Panama then instantly went on a “wishing” spree.

“I wish I had my car, I wish I had a job, money, friends to turn up with in Panama, or take a cruise out of the country…”

Okay so I went from wishing to basically complaining. Not cool but hey I was in my feelings.

Upon arriving to the bus station my mom greeted me with the leftovers from her lunch. I could’ve complained that she didn’t bring me my own food, but I was just so happy that she was on time for once. Anyways, she proceeded to tell me that she had seen Mr. XYZ, the guy who drove my daycare van as a child, and explained that he came by so we would be cooking dinner for him.

Some years ago we were riding around in our car and notice him hanging out at on a corner. He didn’t look like himself; he looked rough and seemingly homeless. My mom invited him to join us for food but he turned down the offer. We later found out that his mother passed away and life happened to him so he’s just been out in the streets. He wasn’t the type of guy you’d see hanging on the streets begging for food, money, or drugs, he was just out there accepting the struggle I’d say. It was sad seeing him in this light, but knowing that we would be cooking dinner for him quickly changed my mood and gave me the reminder to be grateful.

While preparing the food for him, I prayed quietly to myself asking God to forgive me for being so ungrateful about not being able to turn up, and grateful that I have a home to go back to and a home-cooked meal to eat. At this moment I received a revelation from above that timing is everything.

       Ecclesiastes 3

[v1]To every things there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:–

[v4]A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

[v6]A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

[V8]A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

After having dinner with Mr. XYZ, I decided that I would have a more positive intake on my spring break, and that I would not let my negative circumstances get in the way of my time of relaxation, yet alone my happiness.

I’ve found that when you are grateful for what you have and work with what you got, God will silently bless you with so much more! In fact my spring break turned out to be more adventurous and enjoyable than I imagined. Some of my pledge brothers came down so I had people to hang out with and I got the chance to meet up with my old roommate for lunch. Also, I was able to visit a few family members who happened to be a blessing unto me placing money in my hand so I could treat myself, and I even used some of the money to treat others around me!

So to conclude today’s blog, my encouraging message to you today is to stay positive in every circumstance of your life. Embrace your now moment! Where ever you are in life right now, know that God intends for you to be there to grow you, to bless you, and to use you!

There is a timing for everything, so if you aren’t where you want to be in life, continue to work hard, and don’t sweat the small stuff! Just think, you could be homeless or stuck someplace without enough food to eat.

Whatever your struggle may be today, know that there is nothing too hard for God to solve, therefore, commit to P.U.S.H.-ing [Pray Until Something Happens]. Lastly, I dare you to Spring Into Thanksgiving! Get rid of any negativity in your life, including self pity, and find a reason to be thankful by being a blessing unto others!

“Turning negatives into positives one blog at a time…”-Passionate Woman

Spring Break 2015

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It’s Spring Break & You Have NO Plans…


I will be launching my first official blog before the end of this week, so stay tuned!!

In the mean time, to all the spring breakers out there be safe and stay productive!

For those of you without plans and on a budget, like me, here’s a short bucket-list to keep you going:

  1. Read a book
  2. Have a picnic
  3. Take a trip to the beach/pool
  4. Check on an old friend/family member
  5. Hand wash your car or your parents’ car
  6. Stop procrastinating, go for a run or hit the gym
  7. Try out one of your local mom & pop restaurants
  8. Search and apply for new scholarships
  9. Check out the night life downtown and try out a  new club/bar
  10. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or go visit a nursing home
  11. Binge on a TV show you’ve always wanted to watch
  12. Do some spring cleaning and donate clothes
  13. Memorize a poem or bible verse
  14. Make a homemade pizza or bake a cake
  15. Spend time with yourself, you are your greatest investment, love yourself, know yourself, educate yourself, and grow yourself!

Life is what you make it, so let’s make it right! – Hannah Montana